userspaceEngine.PeerForIP read from e.netMap.Peers and
e.lastCfgFull.Peers, both of which go stale when peers arrive via
netmap deltas (which skip Engine.SetNetworkMap and Engine.Reconfig).
Every PeerForIP caller (Engine.Ping, the TSMP disco-key handler,
pendopen diagnostics, tsdial.Dialer.UseNetstackForIP, and
LocalBackend.GetPeerEndpointChanges) would report "no matching peer"
for freshly-added peers.
Fix it the same way SetPeerByIPPacketFunc fixed the outbound packet
hot path: have LocalBackend install a callback that reads the live
nodeBackend. nb.NodeByAddr is built from both SelfNode and Peers
(updateNodeByAddrLocked), so a single lookup covers the common case
with IsSelf set when the matched node ID is SelfNode's. The subnet-
route / exit-node-default-route slow path goes through a new
Engine.PeerKeyForIP that exposes the engine's AllowedIPs BART table
(the same table the outbound packet hot path already consults, with
exit-node selection honored), and resolves the matched key back to a
NodeView via the live nodeBackend.
Updates #12542
Signed-off-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@tailscale.com>
Change-Id: I0d4b0d8997c8e796b7367c46b49b61d4fdc717b0