Fixes a bug where, for kube HA proxies, TLS certs for the replica
responsible for cert issuance where loaded in memory on startup,
although the in-memory store was not updated after renewal (to
avoid failing re-issuance for re-created Ingresses).
Now the 'write' replica always reads certs from the kube Secret.
Updates tailscale/tailscale#18394
Signed-off-by: Irbe Krumina <irbekrm@gmail.com>