The 1 minute timeout was hitting timers inside wireguard-go, leading
stale connections hanging forever. Increasing the timeout to 2 minutes
makes a small subset of cached connections establish direct connections
slightly slower.
Updates to wireguard-go will allow a better hook for when to send these
messages in the future. This change only makes fixes the error mode but
if we have better triggers coming in wireguard-go, we should be using
those.
Updates #20081
Signed-off-by: Claus Lensbøl <claus@tailscale.com>