net/packet, wgengine, tstun: add inter-node TSMP protocol for connect errors

This adds a new IP Protocol type, TSMP on protocol number 99 for
sending inter-tailscale messages over WireGuard, currently just for
why a peer rejects TCP SYNs (ACL rejection, shields up, and in the
future: nothing listening, something listening on that port but wrong
interface, etc)

Updates #1094
Updates tailscale/corp#1185

Signed-off-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@tailscale.com>

net/packet/ip.go

@@ -24,6 +24,17 @@ const (
 	TCP    IPProto = 0x06
 	UDP    IPProto = 0x11
 
+	// TSMP is the Tailscale Message Protocol (our ICMP-ish
+	// thing), an IP protocol used only between Tailscale nodes
+	// (still encrypted by WireGuard) that communicates why things
+	// failed, etc.
+	//
+	// Proto number 99 is reserved for "any private encryption
+	// scheme". We never accept these from the host OS stack nor
+	// send them to the host network stack. It's only used between
+	// nodes.
+	TSMP IPProto = 99
+
 	// Fragment represents any non-first IP fragment, for which we
 	// don't have the sub-protocol header (and therefore can't
 	// figure out what the sub-protocol is).
@@ -47,6 +58,8 @@ func (p IPProto) String() string {
 		return "UDP"
 	case TCP:
 		return "TCP"
+	case TSMP:
+		return "TSMP"
 	default:
 		return "Unknown"
 	}