derp, derphttp, magicsock: send new unknown peer frame when destination is unknown (#7552)

* wgengine/magicsock: add envknob to send CallMeMaybe to non-existent peer

For testing older client version responses to the PeerGone packet format change.

Updates #4326

Signed-off-by: Val <valerie@tailscale.com>

* derp: remove dead sclient struct member replaceLimiter

Leftover from an previous solution to the duplicate client problem.

Updates #2751

Signed-off-by: Val <valerie@tailscale.com>

* derp, derp/derphttp, wgengine/magicsock: add new PeerGone message type Not Here

Extend the PeerGone message type by adding a reason byte. Send a
PeerGone "Not Here" message when an endpoint sends a disco message to
a peer that this server has no record of.

Fixes #4326

Signed-off-by: Val <valerie@tailscale.com>

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Signed-off-by: Val <valerie@tailscale.com>

cmd/tailscaled/depaware.txt

@@ -267,7 +267,7 @@ tailscale.com/cmd/tailscaled dependencies: (generated by github.com/tailscale/de
    W    tailscale.com/tsconst                                        from tailscale.com/net/interfaces
         tailscale.com/tstime                                         from tailscale.com/wgengine/magicsock
      💣 tailscale.com/tstime/mono                                    from tailscale.com/net/tstun+
-        tailscale.com/tstime/rate                                    from tailscale.com/wgengine/filter
+        tailscale.com/tstime/rate                                    from tailscale.com/wgengine/filter+
         tailscale.com/tsweb                                          from tailscale.com/cmd/tailscaled
         tailscale.com/types/dnstype                                  from tailscale.com/ipn/ipnlocal+
         tailscale.com/types/empty                                    from tailscale.com/control/controlclient+