tsnet,wgengine/netstack: add ListenPacket and tests

This adds a new ListenPacket function on tsnet.Server
which acts mostly like `net.ListenPacket`.

Unlike `Server.Listen`, this requires listening on a
specific IP and does not automatically listen on both
V4 and V6 addresses of the Server when the IP is unspecified.

To test this, it also adds UDP support to tsdial.Dialer.UserDial
and plumbs it through the localapi. Then an associated test
to make sure the UDP functionality works from both sides.

Updates #12182

Signed-off-by: Maisem Ali <maisem@tailscale.com>

client/tailscale/localclient.go

@@ -778,6 +778,17 @@ func (lc *LocalClient) SetDNS(ctx context.Context, name, value string) error {
 //
 // The ctx is only used for the duration of the call, not the lifetime of the net.Conn.
 func (lc *LocalClient) DialTCP(ctx context.Context, host string, port uint16) (net.Conn, error) {
+	return lc.UserDial(ctx, "tcp", host, port)
+}
+
+// UserDial connects to the host's port via Tailscale for the given network.
+//
+// The host may be a base DNS name (resolved from the netmap inside tailscaled),
+// a FQDN, or an IP address.
+//
+// The ctx is only used for the duration of the call, not the lifetime of the
+// net.Conn.
+func (lc *LocalClient) UserDial(ctx context.Context, network, host string, port uint16) (net.Conn, error) {
 	connCh := make(chan net.Conn, 1)
 	trace := httptrace.ClientTrace{
 		GotConn: func(info httptrace.GotConnInfo) {
@@ -790,10 +801,11 @@ func (lc *LocalClient) DialTCP(ctx context.Context, host string, port uint16) (n
 		return nil, err
 	}
 	req.Header = http.Header{
-		"Upgrade":    []string{"ts-dial"},
-		"Connection": []string{"upgrade"},
-		"Dial-Host":  []string{host},
-		"Dial-Port":  []string{fmt.Sprint(port)},
+		"Upgrade":      []string{"ts-dial"},
+		"Connection":   []string{"upgrade"},
+		"Dial-Host":    []string{host},
+		"Dial-Port":    []string{fmt.Sprint(port)},
+		"Dial-Network": []string{network},
 	}
 	res, err := lc.DoLocalRequest(req)
 	if err != nil {