derp,cmd/derper: allow server to verify clients

This adds a flag to the DERP server which specifies to verify clients through a local
tailscaled. It is opt-in, so should not affect existing clients, and is mainly intended for
users who want to run their own DERP servers. It assumes there is a local tailscaled running and
will attempt to hit it for peer status information.

Updates #1264

Signed-off-by: julianknodt <julianknodt@gmail.com>

cmd/tailscale/depaware.txt

@@ -15,7 +15,7 @@ tailscale.com/cmd/tailscale dependencies: (generated by github.com/tailscale/dep
         inet.af/netaddr                                              from tailscale.com/cmd/tailscale/cli+
         rsc.io/goversion/version                                     from tailscale.com/version
         tailscale.com/atomicfile                                     from tailscale.com/ipn
-        tailscale.com/client/tailscale                               from tailscale.com/cmd/tailscale/cli
+        tailscale.com/client/tailscale                               from tailscale.com/cmd/tailscale/cli+
         tailscale.com/client/tailscale/apitype                       from tailscale.com/client/tailscale+
         tailscale.com/cmd/tailscale/cli                              from tailscale.com/cmd/tailscale
         tailscale.com/derp                                           from tailscale.com/derp/derphttp